What a year it has been! It feels like it has been a very quick one – nearly over in the blink of an eye. Apparently, this is how it goes as you get older – each year running quicker and quicker. Not an overly comforting thought but I do think it reinforces the need to be grateful for our time here and to reflect a little on how we have spent our time over the last 12 months.
I am by no means a ‘New Year New You’ person. In fact, I despise the concept. How on earth does the clock ticking over from 11:59pm to 12am on the 31st December mean you have any more ability to be a better person from one minute to the next? Or, at the very least the illusion that you are suddenly going to go to the gym more, eat healthily, drink less and be less of an arsehole in general? Does this one designated evening of the year actually produce ‘better’ people? Does putting pressure on people to make new year’s resolutions whilst they are downing their third chardonnay of the evening, help them to chase those goals they had put off for the last 12 months?
My opinion? Absolutely not. It does, however, show the desire we have as humans to start afresh. Despite general opposition to change, there is a part of us that just wants that new beginning. To have that opportunity to find that dream job, that dream person, to have that dream family or to go on that dream holiday. On New Year’s Eve, we can down those drinks and talk about those dreams as though that ticking clock, that one minute of time, will make them magically happen.
That’s the thing though. Things don’t magically happen. You don’t suddenly have the desire to not eat that doughnut but go to the gym instead. You don’t suddenly have a dream job land on your lap without searching for it, without working for it. I am of course speaking in generalisations, there will always be an exception to the rule. My point is unless you are willing to put in the work all year round, those dreams generally don’t happen. This is why I am not anti-resolutions. I am just anti-new year’s resolutions. If you leave making resolutions until the end of the year, you’re already procrastinating and putting them off. Do you really want them then?
I have always been someone who is ‘don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today’ but then I am not exactly known for my patience! I do think though, resolutions should be done throughout the year, and not just in December/January. If you have been reading my blog, then you’ll know I am someone who is constantly working on myself, or probably more correctly now, learning about myself and about others. There is always work to do when it comes to achieving your goals. I am taking this month to be grateful for the good that has happened this year and learn from the bad, but I am certainly not going to set any new resolutions because someone told me to before pulling a party popper in my face.
For me, I am going to just relish the fun moments that happened this year and look forward to the fun still to come in 2020. I have done many things this year I am incredibly proud of, and my comfort-zone has only just been stepped out of. I have come leaps and bounds in my job role and getting closer to the career woman I saw myself being. I raised nearly £1000 for the charity MIND Norwich and smashed my fear of public speaking. I continue to give to charity regularly. I have worked through my depression and anxiety and know myself better than I ever have, so when I get an anxiety attack I know how to ride the waves. I am no longer scared to cut toxic people from my life if they overstep my boundaries. I’ve had wonderful holidays in New York and Greece with my best friends.
I do have a favourite moment above all others this year though, something not as big and grand as all the others, but one that fills me with so much joy. I was in my parent’s kitchen, with my mum, dad, niece and nephew and we were all just dancing like mad to George Ezra, laughing at each other’s terrible moves. These are the simple things we need to take in throughout the year. Special little moments like these often go unappreciated, so make sure you take a moment to snapshot it in your mind (rather than for your Instagram!).
Merry Christmas everyone and I wish you a wonderful 2020. Much love always.